Why Pronouns Matter—And How to Use Them Respectfully
Using the correct pronouns is a simple way to show respect for someone’s identity—and it can make a huge difference in how seen and safe they feel. Whether you’re new to gender-inclusive language or brushing up, here’s what you need to know.
What are pronouns, and why do they matter?
Pronouns (like she/her, he/him, they/them) refer to someone in place of their name. Using the right pronouns affirms a person’s gender and signals that you see and respect them.
Common sets of pronouns
- She/her
- He/him
- They/them
- Ze/hir and other neopronouns
Tips for getting it right
- Don’t assume—ask politely (“What pronouns do you use?”)
- Normalize sharing your own pronouns
- Practice using unfamiliar pronouns
- Gently correct mistakes (your own or others’)
What to do if you make a mistake
Say a quick “Sorry,” correct yourself, and move on. It’s okay to mess up—as long as you’re trying and learning.
How to foster a pronoun-respecting culture
Include pronouns in name tags and email signatures. Use inclusive language. Make space for people to introduce themselves authentically.